Untamed

This is how you find yourself.

There is a voice of longing inside each woman. We strive so mightily to be good: good partners, daughters, mothers, employees, and friends. We hope all this striving will make us feel alive. Instead, it leaves us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed, and underwhelmed. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn’t it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent—even from ourselves. 

For many years, Glennon Doyle denied her own discontent. Then, while speaking at a conference, she looked at a woman across the room and fell instantly in love. Three words flooded her mind: There She Is. At first, Glennon assumed these words came to her from on high. But she soon realized they had come to her from within. This was her own voice—the one she had buried beneath decades of numbing addictions, cultural conditioning, and institutional allegiances. This was the voice of the girl she had been before the world told her who to be. Glennon decided to quit abandoning herself and to instead abandon the world’s expectations of her. She quit being good so she could be free. She quit pleasing and started living.

Soulful and uproarious, forceful and tender, Untamed is both an intimate memoir and a galvanizing wake-up call. It is the story of how one woman learned that a responsible mother is not one who slowly dies for her children, but one who shows them how to fully live. It is the story of navigating divorce, forming a new blended family, and discovering that the brokenness or wholeness of a family depends not on its structure but on each member’s ability to bring her full self to the table. And it is the story of how each of us can begin to trust ourselves enough to set boundaries, make peace with our bodies, honor our anger and heartbreak, and unleash our truest, wildest instincts so that we become women who can finally look at ourselves and say: There She Is.

Untamed shows us how to be brave. As Glennon insists: The braver we are, the luckier we get.

If you do not know Glennon Doyle then you are really missing out. I feel like she is the voice of my “generation”. And by that I mean 30s-40s females who have a personal relationship with God but also realize religion is not bound by hate but instead love. People like me who want to read something honest and be inspired by her open mind and love for her family.

This is her 3rd book and each one honest to God speaks to my soul. This is one of these books with so many hidden gems that I need to read this again to truly get out of this book what she intended. She is the ONLY author where I honestly read something she wrote and I am like “OMG, yes…. that is exactly why I did that”! And this most recent book which is essentially a compilation of Essays is no different and I could not have read this at a better time. This book talks a lot about transitions and being yourself boldly and I get that especially right now.

And a lot of fundamental Christians will disagree with this but I think she is the voice of progressive religion or at least for me she is. LOVE is the topic that binds all her books together and as she has grown over the course of her 3 memoirs I realize I have grown along with her. Glennon is raw speaking of addiction, LGBT, race, love, religion, marriage and mental health. In fact in her first book when I read the wedding toast she gave at her little sisters wedding I cried because it was so full of love. And then several years later I used her toast at my own sisters wedding because it was as if I wrote it for Marissa.

If you are struggling right now in quarantine or just happy being in love with your family then this book is for you both! Has anyone else read this? I hope you do and that you get out of this book what I have, and please read her other books also…. you will thank me!

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