Happier at Home…

Hi Friends….Back again, get excited!! I found something on Pinterest (go figure) and it was more than a pin it was kinda inspirational….well as inspirational as something can be that I just discovered yesterday! I found a pin that lead me to a blog listing out 10 ways to be happier at home. I have not made the fact that I am home sick a secret and I welcome a list with easy things to get my mind off of “home” and more on HOME! (you catch me?) Here is the list exactly from the site I found it the highlighted portion is from me…………..

10 Ways to be Happier at Home

1. Make your bed.

The book The Happiness Project, explains that this three minute task is one of the simplest habits you can adopt to positively impact your happiness. (Lucky me I already do this)

2. Bring every room back to “ready.”

I learned this trick from Marilyn Paul’s clever book, It’s Hard to Make a Difference When You Can’t Find Your Keys. It’s a known fact: Clutter causes stress; order creates a haven from it. This mood-boosting routine is simple: Take about three minutes to bring each room back to “ready” before you depart it. (I already try to do this each day but I will continue to do so)

3. Display sentimental items around your home.

One reason that experiences (and memories of those experiences) make us happier than material things is due to the entire cycle of enjoyment that experiences provide: planning the experience, looking forward to the experience, enjoying the experience, and then remembering the experience. Make your home a gallery of positive memories. (Check)

4. Start a one-line-a-day gratitude journal.

Before bed, simply jot down one happy memory from that day. Reflection is an important part of happiness, and pausing to reflect on a positive event from each day cultivates gratitude. (An added bonus: Later, when your memory is defunct, you will already have all of your meaningful adventures recorded!) If you have trouble getting started with journaling, consider buying a book to guide you. Simple Abundance, by Sarah Ban Breathnach, is a great one. (I got a notebook out this morning along with a pen on my nightstand ready to start this one tonight….even better it’s a “Forks Twilight” notebook from a dear friend Becky K…so that is #3 & 4 in ONE)

5. If you can’t get out of it, get into it.

This tip comes from The Happiness Project. I love the message: The dishes are not going to clean themselves, so you will do it, and you will like it! (Unless, of course, you can outsource this job, in which case I say: Nice work!) Otherwise, get into doing the dishes. Feel the soothing warm water on your hands. Enjoy the tickle of the tiny bubbles. Crank your favorite album at an unusually loud volume, do a couple fist-pumps while shouting “Can I get a hell yeah for the dishes? Hell! Yeah!” and pretend you love it. (this will be hard)

6. Before you get up each morning, set an intent for the day.

In The Art of Happiness, the Dali Lama says “”Every day, think as you wake up: today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it.” Wow. What a wise man. I tend to wake up with a strong visceral reaction that says, “Attention human beings: Be afraid of me before coffee. Be very afraid!” Setting a daily intent makes a huge difference. Your daily intent could be something like “be productive” or “enjoy today’s delicious moments” or it could be something more specific like “say thank you to my loved ones today.” But it should not be another “to do” item on your list. (I think this will be good for me because I am having a hard time finding my purpose here)

7. Do small favors for your housemates, expecting nothing in return (not even a thank you!).

(That’s right, I said it: nothing!) Mow the lawn for your husband, but don’t expect him to pat you on the back. Make the bed for your wife, but don’t try to get bonus points for it. Take the trash out for your roommate, just because. The ability to cultivate strong, healthy relationships is one of the biggest contributors to health and happiness, but when you start to keep score, the benefit is lost. (No! It’s YOUR turn to clean up the dog poop!) It’s a well-known fact: When you do good, you feel good. (I try but I will try harder without wanting a pat on the back in return, not everything will happen over night…ya know?

8. Call at least one friend or family member a day.

You can do this while you clean, while you make the bed, or while you walk the dog. Texts and emails do not count! Make an actual phone call to a loved one, just to chat and catch up. We humans are social beings and studies show that even when we don’t feel like it, even if we are naturally introverted, socializing with our loved ones makes us feel better. (This is easy from the family sense…I talk to my Mom daily but I am SO bad with the phone I need to try SO much harder to call friends. I have really slacked off and it is all on me)

9. Spend money on things that cultivate experiences at home.

Save money for a new grill for parties or a new DVD for family movie night — something that will encourage you to have people over and entertain. Plan a summer barbeque, invite your closest friends, kick back and relax. (Shopping? I’m in…but really buying this house has helped so much by giving me ownership. I have been making our house a home and it does help)

10. Spend a few minutes each day connecting with something greater than yourself.

Whatever your spiritual beliefs — or non-beliefs — may be, studies show that connecting to a high power is correlated with happiness. Just stepping back to realize that we are part of an enormous universe can put some perspective on your annoyance with the those-are-definitely-not-mine-and-they-are-abso-fricking-lutely-repulsive socks under the coffee table. Before bed, spend just a few minutes contemplating something larger than yourself. Take a walk in nature. Write in a journal. Create a sacred space in your home. (I read a wonderful short daily devotional every evening before bed that my sister bought me but I need to find something to start my way with too)

Bonus from ME.

I got up and walked today, I slacked for a long time…I was getting bad migraines in the mornings and still do but when I wake up without one I need to walk. It will be good for my mind, my health and for some me time. I won’t be perfect but I will try.

This book was referenced a few times in the article above and I have seen this one as well as the first book the Happiness Project at Barnes and Noble all the time…..maybe now is time to pick it up?? Have you read this? Did anything on the list above speak to you like it did to me??

Here is the snazzy “Book Trailer” for the book above…..looks like it will build on and expand on the list above!!!

What is something you do that makes you happier at home???

5 Comments

  1. Jenna
    October 23, 2012 / 6:26 pm

    I love this post! I feel like I am in a rut and need to feel more motivated. I cannot wait to get my hands on a copy of this book! I read, and loved, the Happiness Project! Have a great Tuesday 🙂

  2. Anonymous
    October 23, 2012 / 7:22 pm

    I love love LOVE Gretchen Rubin! I follow her on Twitter. She's so wise. Thank you for the post! –Charissa

  3. Tara
    October 23, 2012 / 9:31 pm

    I read the happiness project and LOVED it! I have just adopted the "making the bed" routine and it really does help! I also do the one liner journal everyday and it helps!Thanks for the advice 🙂

  4. Becky
    October 24, 2012 / 8:05 pm

    #5 for you will be to empty the dishwasher…hehehe.These are all great suggestions though…and surprisingly, I do not do very many of them. Time for me to get on the ball. I think I'll get the book too.

  5. The Other Becky
    October 29, 2012 / 1:11 pm

    Glad you're using the notebook! I'm going to make my bed this morning….small steps. 🙂

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