Grown Up?

So…I was reading a great blog I follow, Lindsay at Sweet American Honey ( and her recent post about being a grown up and it really hit the nail on the head! It also got me thinking…….when do we “grow up”? This has been on my mind alot as my Birthday looms over my head.

*In high school I thought I had my life planned out:

1. I was to be married at 23 

2. Have first baby at 25  

3. Have the second at 28 and be done before 30! A boy and a girl of course!

HAHA! Well that ship has sailed I turn 30 in 2 weeks from today and out of that list I have only the husband. But to show you how plans change…I don’t even know when I want to have children. Don’t get me wrong, I assume we will but when? Not soon.

* Next, growing up I wanted to be several things:



Professional Dancer

Wedding Planner

Well, I was a pro dancer for a few years…in the world of dance making it to the NBA is a big deal. I also planned some weddings a few years ago but that doesn’t pay the bills. I never would of thought I would grow up and be a Landman but I like it so far. Sometimes I still daydream what it would be like if I did better in school and was smarter…….if I went to school to be something like a doctor. Would I be happier? More than likely not, but I am a person who plays the “what if” game….too much.

* What does “Grown Up” feel like? I think some people feel more grown up because they have children and because I don’t I feel younger than 30.? Not that I even know what 30 feels like. I also think I may feel younger because Matt and I are still getting “established” in our careers and we still look ahead to that bigger house, the better car and great vacations for two. Have you noticed that now more than ever there is this pressure to have it all? I mean it is like everyone skipped the “starter home” or the beater car!?? But when you live like that where can you go from there? There is no growing up to do when you have it all to start with!?? 

So the point? I am not sure…..I mean how does anyone know what they want to be when they grow up? To be honest I don’t know too many people who love their job…work is work. Does anyone not wish they had more money? The grass is always greener on the other side isn’t it? I am just more honest than others. Most people would tell you “they are more than blessed, they have a better life than they could of even dreamed up……they are perfect” and maybe some of you are but I doubt it. We all just have to show up everyone else in the “I am more blessed than you are game”…..and it bugs.  Well friends, I am starting to ramble so I will go before I loose you all but I ask you…..are you living your dream? How did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? Thoughts?


  1. The Burtons
    April 14, 2011 / 4:22 pm

    OMG I love this blog and totally agree! I just turned 30 in Dec and am in such a different place than I thought I would be when I was younger! And YES, I always wonder about my career, and if I did something different would I like it more? Maybe it's just turning 30that does that to you?! Who knows but I feel the same way! Kat

  2. Becky
    April 14, 2011 / 4:36 pm

    I still don't know what I wanna be when I grow up. I still feel 18 soemtimes and it trips me out that I have a 13 year old son. Extra money or more things sound great, but it wouldn't change anything. We would probably still try to live outside of our means and be in debt.Gotta learn to be happy with the here and now! It is all there really is.

  3. Lindsay
    April 14, 2011 / 11:14 pm

    thank you for posting about my blog :)i am shocked at how many people feel the same as I do. and i totally agree with you…work is work. we got cuz it pays the bills. not many people truly can have their dream job, and again it is still a job. i have realized i shold never have complained as much as i did about my previous job. it was an amazing job with amazing benefits. i think i was just burnt out and needed a change. well the change to working at starbucks is so not my ideal change. i have learned from this. anyways, i am totally rambling 🙂 thank you again for blogging about this as well 🙂 i am not alone lol

  4. Natalie
    April 15, 2011 / 1:05 pm

    Great post! I turned 30 this year and have pondered these things myself. I think one thing that puts pressure on our generation with the whole career/job thing is that we were raised by a generation that lived to work. Well, we all work to live. B/c you are right, work is work and it's not all lollipops and unicorns. It's a means to an end, so we can get all the 'stuff' we want. It's important not to let all the 'stuff' and 'one upping' each other rule our lives. I know that we will always spend what we make, etc., but I do know that having things more simple is really better. My husband taught me that, he's kind of an old soul, I've been lucky learning that lesson now, my brother that is 11 yrs older than I am still hasn't learned it and he has NO retirement whatsoever. Good 'make you think' post!

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