Tuesday, November 29, 2016


Today I wanted to share with everyone a few of my favorite charities for Giving Tuesday! Maybe you will donate today or maybe this will just inspire you to find your own favorite place to give back this Holiday season!

**The first is local and Matt and I just went to a charity event a few weeks ago for this organization!
Here is their Mission: Loving kids, families, those in need with food and financial assistance while restoring dignity and hope for a better future!
To learn more or see how you can help or donate click HERE

** Next up is a wonderful organization that was founded by a friend of mine, and I love donating to this incredible group!
Learn about what 41 does for their community..........
To shop for a great cause or to donate to the organization click HERE

** I love this organization and in the past I have sponsored an elephant for a year and one day I hope to travel there to volunteer!

Born from one family’s passion for Kenya and its wilderness, the David Sheldrick Wildlife Trust is today the most successful orphan-elephant rescue and rehabilitation program in the world and one of the pioneering conservation organisations for wildlife and habitat protection in East Africa.
To learn about adopting an elephant click HERE

** Lastly is another wonderful organization that I love, The Gentle Barn
Ellie Laks founded The Gentle Barn in 1999; it was a dream of hers since she was seven years old. Animals were always very healing and nurturing to her as she faced the challenges of growing up, finding herself, fitting in, feeling understood, etc. She majored in special education and psychology, and with her special love of animals and children, The Gentle Barn was a perfect way of putting all her talents and passions into one.I love all the good this place does for animals in need and they do such a wonderful job at truly sharing with other the compassion we all need to God's creatures. Click HERE to donate

Monday, November 28, 2016

Decisions.... dum dum duuummmm

I wanted to open up to you guys today for a few reasons.......
1. Spilling my guts on here is therapeutic for me
2. I want to share with you all and be open about everything because of the feedback I have received over these few years.... it helps people and that helps me!
3. And You all... our family, our friends and our wonderful supporters online matter to us.

A few weeks ago Matt and I had a very real and very hard conversation about our future and what we want it to hold. But the future for us is the next year only, dealing with infertility it is best to only plan a year at a time we have found out. Mostly because so many different factors go into this and things can change on a dime. You know no one gives you a manual on how to deal with the news that you will never have biological children and then no one robs a bank for you either. So ya, money is a huge factor in this decision but we honestly set that aside and talked about how we feel. If we robbed a bank and got $30,000 plus in our laps would this decision change... maybe. But we don't actually know and for now we both feel at peace with our decision.

We decided that for the next year we are going to be US. It has been YEARS since we have lived without trying to conceive, years since we were not constantly sticking me with needles, emptying bank accounts on medical intervention and years since we stopped tracking time by my period. And trust me no one wants to count time by their period! HA! So this next year we are going to focus on US. Live our lives, focus on our careers, love on our fur-animals, go on vacations (I hope) and celebrate our 10 YEAR wedding anniversary next year. Then after our 10 year anniversary we will sit down and see where we are and how we feel. Matt mentioned that maybe we don't have children and I feel the same but in this space is that just the residual grief talking? Or in a year will we want to move forward with adoption? I can't answer that. What I can answer is that is has been just the 2 of us for 11 years this Christmas. Our first date was 11 years ago and we have come out ok(ish) LOL!!!!! Now, we do want to try and save.. I hope to sell a few houses so we can save money but first for us to have a savings again. We have like $300 in savings because of how much we spent this past year on 7 IUI's and 2 IVF's. We also want to finish our basement but we will see. So next year we are going to STOP revolving our lives solely on if we are pregnant. And ya, we both have a lot of healing to do.

I need people to know that especially like this past week when SO many friends announced their pregnancies I am truly happy for you. Why would I not be, I know how hard it is to get pregnant so YAY you, for real! SO very happy for you... your future baby has no bearing on my situation although people seem to think it must. The only thing is it makes me think.... will I ever get to "announce" we are having a child one day? Will I be ok if we never do? And those are valid questions to ask myself. And who knows that answer! And I hate how this situation, something I cannot control effects the way people are to me/us.. So stop it you guys! No, neither of us have officially dealt with the ramifications of the past few years but how do you? Really, how are you suppose to? For me I think all my emotions have been channeling into anger, which I don't like. Anger at situations and people who just act as if my life never happened, anger to those who cannot seem to not even once acknowledge what we have been thru. It doesn't take much time or effort to say "Hi, I love you, I am sorry." But it clearly must be...... I can't seem to move past it, I stew in it and I hate myself for it.

SO that is where we are, I did ask my Mom to stop saying "But you all would have the most beautiful baby ever, we will never see that" I know Mom, I know you are hurting too but that isn't good for any of us to hear anymore. And thats the truth, that is where we are and how we are moving forward as a couple. I still have some expensive IVF meds in my fridge, I am gonna offer them up again to anyone who wants them before I throw them out. I have loved helping 2 other girls with free meds, I like the thought that something good is coming out of our situation.

Thursday, November 24, 2016


Happy Thanksgiving you guys!!! I hope your day is full of relaxation, great food, loved ones and PIE!!!!

Wednesday, November 23, 2016

Kiddo Gift Guide

I have combed the internet for some adorable ideas for the kiddo in your life!! I LOVE giving books but you guys there is a tortilla swaddled on here, you heard me you wrap your baby and they will look like a tortilla! You're welcome! And what little girl or big girl wound't love a unicorn horn? I hope these suggestions will inspire you or make your Holiday shopping a little easier!
Kids Gift Guide

Plaid Bodysuit for Baby

Graphic Bodysuit for Baby

The Sun Is Also a Star

Girls Gift Guide

Girls.... Ok, go ahead and email this post to the man in your life or leave it open on his computer! And your welcome! I mean I will honestly take one of everything on this list but at least 2 or 3 would work, am I RIGHT??? I can see you cozying up in that Literary scarf while drinking that amazing hot chocolate and thumbing thru that new cookbook! And I MIGHT even work out if I had that Kate Spade Bow work out top? Might is the key word.
Anyways here are amazing gift ideas for the girl in your life.........
Girls Gift Guide

Something the gal in your life will love is Sparkling Rose' because I mean... Why not?? This is the perfect accompaniment to your gift or something to pop open while opening gifts!! Get yours HERE
Happy Shopping Friends!

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Your Guys Gift Guide

I don't know about you but this is the week I start my Christmas Shopping.... I like to wait for deals, to see whats HOT this year and my mind changes quite often on what I want to get everyone! This week and next I am going to do my Holiday Gift Guide and today it is all about the Guy in your life!!!!! On the board below there is something for everyone and every price point! Make sure you click on the small picture under the guide and you will be taken to the site to purchase these awesome gifts!!!!!!!!

That book will go great with those cozy slippers and I love the "Make Your Own Hot Sauce" kit for the DIY'er guy!!!

Guys Gift Guide

I have a bonus gift for you and if your guy, Dad, Brother, Uncle like Wine like my husband does then check this out!! Heroes Blend Wine and a portion of the proceeds go to the troops... I mean wine plus a cause PERFECT Holiday gift or wine for your table! Click HERE to buy and have it sent to YOUR house! Easy Peasy!

Happy Shopping Friends and stay tuned for my Girl Guide and one for the kiddo in your life!



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