Monday, January 4, 2016


Dear Real Housewives of Beverly Hills,

I can barely stomach to watch you this season, your comments on Yolanda's illness are sickening and flat out wrong. (I'm talking to you Lisa Rinna) Lyme Disease is in all accounts an "Invisible Illness" much like Chronic Migraines which I suffer from. Let's talk about a few of the "issues" you Beverly Hills women have with Yolanda:

* You all say "She looks fine".....
And Yolanda is exactly right when she says she looks great on the outside but on the inside she is suffering greatly. Its is the same with me, I may look perfectly fine on the outside and at the same time I could be battling a huge migraine inside. Life goes on and you have to learn when you can suffer and when you can not.

* Secondly, you say "One minute it's a happy selfie and the other it's a sick selfie, I don't get it"...
That is right, you DON'T GET IT! When battling a chronic illness you can have days of good and why not celebrate them? You get sick for spells and then can feel good for a period, so I am sorry if her "good Days" are confusing you. On my good days I try to catch up on things I have missed and do something enjoyable for myself too.

* You all don't understand "all her extreme treatments"....
If I had the money Yolanda has I would try anything I could to get rid of my migraines too. When you are sick and at the end of your rope you will literally try anything, anything. And that is what Yolanda is in a position to do, it isn't weird.... it's brave.

You see when I first got diagnosed with Migraines in my early 20s I lost friends too, long long standing friends who didn't understand why I had to cancel so much on plans. I looked fine from the outside but inside my head during a migraine I am dying. For some reason that really bothers people. What Yolanda is going thru is a version of what I have been thru.... People do not understand and if she had a broken leg you could see.... people wouldn't question it. It's so tough when you are battling an illness with no cure and your friends start dropping off and to be honest I still have a friend that did this that hurts. I missed her engagement party and she literally NEVER forgave me for having a migraine that night. I also couldn't travel for her wedding due to migraines and she has not spoken to me since even though I went to her reception she had locally. A friend I had for over 15 years. People can be so cruel.

Yolanda, you keep doing what your doing.... fighting strong and enjoying your pain free days. You don't need these women in your life. And I get it... she chooses to go thru this on reality TV but she is speaking for so many people battling Lyme and other "invisible" illnesses, she is trying to put a face to what so many people go thru on a daily basis. And I love her for it.


Anonymous said...

Well said Nicole!

From a fellow "invisible" struggler of chronic disease, that surfaces and others don't understand.

You do get to the point of trying not to explain because others don't get it, or as one ex said; "I use it as an excuse for my behavior".

I have walked away from friendships before they have the chance to. Maybe that is why I do better with online friendships.

Sending you hugs of understanding. I don't watch that show but, good for standing up for Yolanda.

Becky said...

Well said...thanks for speaking for those of with "invisible" ailments. Unfortunately, unless a person has had one, they will never truly understand. However, this is not something I would ever wish on another person.


Related Posts with Thumbnails


Okie a la Mode
<div class="grab-button" margin: 0 auto;"><a href="" rel="nofollow"><img src="" alt="Okie a la Mode"></div>

My Bookshelf


#BabyMakingDays #givingtuesday #hitchthehendersons #IVF #RHOBH 1every15 1in8 2014 2015 2016 2017 33 41 4th a' la mode abner about me ad Africa alcatraz animals anniversary anthropologie asian authors awards baby babymakingdays barsilinga baseball beach beauty because I said I would becky bedroom Bella best of the year Big Sis/Little Sis bikes birchbox birthdays blog award blog challenge blog sale blogs boards book club books boston botox breck broadmoor broncos cali car casa savage castle rock causes Challenge changetheworld charity Charleston Christian Christmas clearblue closet sale colorado colorado springs columbus comiccon community outreach concerts contest cooking country chic couponing crafty current events Curtis dance date night day trip debates DECASO decor Denver deotx deployment design dinner for one dinning room district office DIY doctors dogs dolphins drinks DSWT earl Elephant elway engaged estes park faith Fall fall fashion fall food famil Family Farmers fashion fathers day fblogger Fenway fertility friday fertility planit Five for Friday food football Friday Funny friends FSBO Fun funny furkids gameday garage Sale gentle barn Georgetown getaway getting to know me gift ideas gifts girls trip Give Aways give back glee goals God God Daughters goodies granddad grief grilled Guest Posts guests Halloween haunted health hello fresh history holiday holidays hollywood home home decor house house hunting hubby husband incubus infertility inspirational instagram interior design invisible children it works IUI IVF IVF2 iworry jeans jewelry JH job Junior League KD Kendall kitchen kol kony LA labor day Life Life Church lions lip sense love maine makeup Marine Marissa marriage matt meal plans meatless medium meds memories mexico Migraines military MLB mom monday moore mothers day mountain home move movies musical my 2 cents NBA new home New Year noah office Ohio okc okie oklahoma old pics ootd Oprah organize oscar oscars OU outfits outlander paranormal party patio peru pet photo shoot pinterest planner playoffs plus size politics pond prayer quiz real estate reality TV realtyONE Recipes red rocks relocation resolutions restore Reviews rockies Rosine sale salem San Diego san fran savage savagesellscolorado Savannah Scentsy Seattle SECOR secret secrets shopping silly sizzlin style skin snow sponsored sports spring staging stapleton staycation Stella and Dot strength style boards styled stylin summer summer slim down surlatable SYTYCD tailgate taji tattoo tbt Thankful Thursdays thanksgiving the cove thoughts throwback thunder tobi today show topper club tornado tour trailers TTC tutorial TV twilight tybee island update Vacation valentines day vegan vest visit volunteer wayfair wedding weekend weight loss weirdness What I'm Loving whatsfordinner willow house wine wineshopathome winter work working it workwear WW zoo
Designed by Munchkin Land Designs • Copyright 2014 • All Rights Reserved