Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Expectations

ex·pec·ta·tion

  [ek-spek-tey-shuhn] 
noun
1.
the act or the state of expectingto wait in expectation.
2.
the act or state of looking forward or anticipating.
3.
an expectant mental attitude: a high pitch of expectation.
4.
something expecteda thing looked forward to.

I am sure you are all wondering what in the heck I am going to talk about today....and this subject is something I have wanted to talk about for SO long! I have a theory, actually it is more than a theory it is a proven "motto"...........
Expect the worst and you will always be pleasantly surprised!

Yes, you read that right....that is something I repeat to myself and share with others all the time. Matt hates it, he thinks it is so negative of me but I completely disagree. Expectations are the root of all disappointment and that is a fact.....
Think about it this way, if you expect something to be so amazing then the reality is you will probably be let down. I apply this to ALL areas of my life.....concerts, movies, life events and so forth. I have told this silly little motto of mine to several people who all agree that this has helped them in certain situations...so that is why I wanted to share it with you, this just might strike a cord with you too. Sometimes you can't help get your expectations up but I try to really think it over and adjust my expectations of certain "things". I honestly think that being let down is one of the worst feelings there is. Now, just because I am aware that this motto helps me it doesn't mean I will be able to apply it to all areas of my life......we just can't help but get our expectations up sometime.
Here are 2 examples........
1. I worked very hard on my Valentine's Day surprises for Matt. I couldn't help that my expectations about how the weekend would go were unintentionally too high. And I was completely let down. I was mad at myself, my stupid fault for getting my "hopes up" and the whole weekend went to crap.

2. During our trip home for Christmas we had someone stay the week at our house and take care of the animals, my expectations were pretty low.........so when we arrived home after a week and the house looked just like we left it I was blown away! I was so happy.....and I remember that feeling of complete ease.

Yes, changing your expectations can be as trivial as the examples above or they can be large like how I "expected" things to be once we moved to Ohio. I also try to remind myself that "expectation" is a noun not a verb. Your expectation is not going to make something better it is a noun not a action. (that makes sense to me) Something funny is I have never thought that this little "motto" of mine could have been "discovered" prior to me.......but after searching on Pinterest I have realized that my "Ah-Ha" moment has been used for a long time........
I just hope that this little post will help someone in some situation somewhere and then this was a job well done. And if you are on board with Matt's belief that this is a negative way to look at life then........we can agree to disagree!
Have a great Tuesday friends!

2 comments:

Girl On a Journey said...

I am struggling with this whole expectation thing right now. We have always (in the past) received profit sharing bonuses by the first week of March each year. We still have not received them and one person said it should be this week. My expectations are this week but, each day is a disappointment that it was not that day. I am at the point of telling myself we are not getting them this year to lower my expectation and to just be happy IF we get them after all. Expectation is for sure a heartache!

Becky said...

Expectations need to be realistic. Having realistic expectations isn't negative. So I think this can still be approached from a positive place. Maybe that is the difference between what you are saying and what Matt thinks you are saying. Because I don't think you are being negative, you are setting realistic expectations. Make sense?

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