Thursday, July 12, 2012

Life.....

A few people have asked how things are going since the move.........I have been in Ohio for 6 weeks now. I am not sure if it feels longer or shorter?!  First let me remind anyone who is new that for all of my 31 years I have only lived in a 10 mile radius in Oklahoma City. We lived by ALL our family who we saw a lot....... so this is hard on me. (Matt is different, I know it is hard for him but guys are different) It's weird actually, it is almost like my mind has not processed this yet.....I have thrown myself into fixing up the house which has been a huge help. By doing that it has given me pride and ownership. Sometimes if Matt is working late and I am laying on the couch my mind will slip to a bad place.....it will think... "I can't drive over to my parents right now" or "This is not a vacation it's forever" and I then get serious anxiety so I quickly push the thoughts away.

Something I realized I have done but not on purpose is I have kinda isolated myself. I am not emailing, texting or calling my girlfriends like I normally would. It's weird, I seem to have just pulled back from everything.....I don't really feel sad and I don't feel like I am sulking but maybe I am? For some odd reason I rarely feel like talking and other days I really am so busy that before I know it another day is gone. I have apologized to friends about this already, it's 100% on me... And I don't know how to break out of it yet. You know since the move I haven't cried once......I almost feel like I have not processed my feelings yet. Maybe?

Now let me say that if you live in Ohio I am not meaning everyone just the people I have come in contact with.....BUT everyone is SO RUDE! Literally coming from Oklahoma it is shocking. No one says thank you when you hold a door open, no one smiles and says Hello and everyone has road rage. For instance I am walking in the mornings (yay me) and the other morning I passed literally 10 women some my age and I smiled and said "Good Morning" to everyone and only ONE person acknowledged my exsistance. It is sooo weird. Just something new to get use to I guess. At the grocery store people are really rude....like everyone has cart rage, I feel like a fish out of water at times.

I think that this whole first year....as in .....first Birthdays without family, first Holidays if we can't travel home will be a learning experience and getting use to things. I am sure we will build our own routines and traditions but that doesn't happen over night. And who knows maybe one day I will wake up cry all day and move on? Who knows.

7 comments:

Erin said...

Praying for you during the hard time. I've never moved, so I really don't know what your going through, but I know it has to be hard not having your family right there! Try not to let the rude people get to you. They are everywhere not just in Ohio. I live in the South and there can be some very rude people here. Just try and be the better person regardless if you want to scream at them - lol

Crystal Clear As Mud said...

I know how you're feeling because I kinda did the same thing when we moved to San Antonio. Don't you remember how I brought, like, 20 books to those book clubs? That's because I was shutting myself up and only reading. You'll get past this, I promise! It just takes a little bit of time to find your new "normal."

Becky said...

I know it is easier said than done, but it will pass. Maybe it would better to focus on each day individually and not focus on the forever part of the move...until you are mentally ready for that part.
Also, don't let those meanies ruin you. Still say good morning and hi and you'll wear 'em down ;D
I love you!

Nicki Willis said...

Nicole, every big city outside of OK is like that I was so mad when I moved to PHX and the same (no holding the door, thank you ect...) but then I realized yes some are rude but for the most part everyone is just "on their own mission" and aren't paying any attention. I miss the y'all come back now, Thank ya and Boomer Sooner! But it gets better ;)

Nicholl Vincent said...

guys are so different. I agree. We recently moved and its tough. It gets better though. xoxoxoxoxxo

visit nichollvincent.blogspot.com

have a good night!

The Cavallaro's said...

Just stumbled across you blog & I am SO glad that I did because I used to feel THE. EXACT. SAME. WAY!

I am from Indiana (close to where you are living now)

And 2 years ago I moved to Texas with my hubby for a job. Before then, I had lived in the SAME HOUSE my entire (minus college, where I went only an hour away).

I totally isolated myself and even know I don't know a ton of people here. A piece of advice.. DON'T ISOLATE YOURSELF! Have you looked into blogger group? I joined one and it helped introduce me to a lot of wonderful women my age who have similar interests as me (other than blogging. They are all young and married!) Especially since my hubby works A LOT!

Try and keep in touch with your friends back home the best you can! And don't let rude people get you down (yeah, easier said than done, right?) Some people are just that... RUDE! Don't let that influence your whole thoughts on the state because not EVERYONE is like that!

Best of luck! We have always been the 'new kid in town' and it's scary at first, but I promise, it DOES get better!

(Sorry for the novel!) :)

Karin Rowe said...

I moved to NE Ohio (just south of Cleveland) 2 years ago and I can't begin to tell you how much this resonates w/ me. It was such a shock to see how different the people up here were than the people in OK.
That said, I have met some (like 3) wonderful ladies, but as a whole, it's pretty miserable.

If you crave a taste of home Ray Ray's Hog Pit is fantastic and a little bbq goes a long way in curbing our homesickness.

I'm so sad that you are experiencing such nastiness, but I'm afraid that's kind of par for the course up here.

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