Friday, September 17, 2010

5 Love Languages

Ok, so I tend to talk or refer to this book alot and I JUST got thru having a conversation about this book at work with a co-worker....and so I was like I gotta blog about this. Let me say that I NEVER read "self help" or books that try to "figure you out" but I think every couple needs to read this book. Funny enough I read this on our honeymoon and I was hit over the head with the realization that not everyone shows their love the same towards one another. Since that realization I have approached or at least tried to approach our relationship with this all in mind. At the end of the book is a HUGE quiz (not the short one that is online) and that is how you find out your love style. It also talks about now you know your style, now what?
Here is mine...
Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures

So when I say I am a "gifter" that is what I am but for me this is more how I give my love than need to recieve it (and he talks about that in the book also).....to me when I give a gift whether it be big or small, expensive or home made that is how I show my love. And Matt sometimes forgets this when I surprise him with stuff, he will casually say thank you and move on which to me can be hurtful. But at the same time I know that he is NOT a "Gifts" and I have to take that into consideration. So what I am saying is that you need to read this and if you can make your spouse or significant other. It is short, informative and oh so helpful!!!
Have you read this book? If so what are you?

1 comment:

Becky said...

Tony and I swear by this book and have given it as gifts to several friends. I have to admit, this book probably saved our marriage.

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